Are you exhausted? Do you feel like you spend every day running just to keep up and still falling short? In our society today, we are expected to do and be so many things to so many different people it only seems possible to disappoint in one area or another. If we focus too much on our careers our personal life suffers, and if we focus too much on family it seems we will not achieve the success we want – and then there are the household obligations, volunteer opportunities, health and fitness responsibilities, oh and if there is any time left at all maybe you can find time to do something you want to do just because. As speaker, author and business coach Rebecca Barth tells us in chapter 1 of The Results Map for Women in Biz, sometimes you have to let something go before you can move forward with your full life. My challenge to you is to think of life not in buckets of business, personal, etc., but as a whole. You only have one life and you get to choose what you make of it. The following three fundamentals pulled from The Results Map for Women in Biz, will help you map out the life you want to live.
Before you can start living the life you want to live you have to make sure you have the right perspective and expectations. Too often, we don’t have realistic expectations of ourselves and over commit to things that are physically impossible to achieve. Many of us strive to be over-achievers and fight with the limitations of time and our physical bodies to get them done. While challenging yourself can be a good thing it can also be demoralizing if you challenge yourself to achieve things that are unrealistic. The difference between seeing results and dreaming of them is perspective and the willingness to change and take action. Realize that you may need to change your expectations of what your perfect life looks like before you can find the balance you seek.
Once you have identified what you want your life to look like, it’s time to take action and start cutting the things that won’t help you get there and focusing more on the things that will. How many unnecessary tasks are taking up your time every day? Are the things you have committed to moving you forward or holding you back? You have to get real about the limitations of your time. Use the boundaries worksheet from The Results Map to help get a clearer understanding of your time limitations and build in the activities you really want to have. Putting everything down on paper in front of you will help you gain a clear understanding of what needs to change.
With the right perspective and strategy in place you will start to see the results you want to achieve. But your results will be driven by your actions. You can’t expect to make temporary changes, or insignificant changes and see the results you are looking for. True change takes time, consistency, and can be very challenging. However, as you work to end less productive habits and create new, effective habits you will start enjoying the rewards of your efforts. Don’t give in and never give up.
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